.  .  .  finding hope in every difficult situation

From despair to hope….

Loss . . depression . . confusion . . hurt . . anxiety . . transition . . divorce . . anger . .  addiction . .  the pain of suffering with these and other life issues, often brings a person to seek help.

Our natural instinct, when hurt, angry or hopeless is to build walls around our heart.

Walls of self-protection that separate us from others.

The loneliness of it all can feel overwhelming. and the anger or depression may seem relentless.

Hopelessness settles in.

As we become isolated, worry more, talk less, become despairing, angry, unforgiving, depressed and anxious,  we often do more of the very things that are NOT working already. . . . what else could we do?

Those walls of protection now keep out the very desire and curiosity that are needed for healing.   Instead of growing into a new way of life, understanding and action..  we find that only the painful circumstances grow, AND yet . . .

Our human capacity to heal is truly remarkable… 

Hope comes in when we begin to speak out loud about what we have experienced. Give yourself permission to hope, and know that you don’t have to do it alone.

Hope grows when you shine the light of curiosity and desire into what is causing you to suffer and develop your willingness to change what you can.

Anne Lamott put it this way, “Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the next right thing, the dawn will come.  You wait and you work. You don’t give up.”

According to Louis Smedes,  “…genuine hope always combines imagination, faith, and desire. Those are the main ingredients.”

Hope grows when you find the therapist who will walk with you, bringing her experience, skill, faith, ideas and sense of possibility into your life. 

Someone with whom you  feel safe talking and who believes in your ability to truly change and grow.

I look forward to talking with you soon. We can do this.

seeds-of-lightHope is always available to us. When we feel defeated, we need only take a deep breath, look at one another and say,   “Yes,” and hope will reappear.    ~Monroe Forester


. . . it doesn’t have to be that way.